Top 7 Signs It’s Time To Leave The Narcissist

Are You Feeling Drained of Your Energy and Power?

If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist, you don’t need me to tell you that these people can wear you out until you feel like you are being drained of all your energy and most likely just trying your best to survive. 

But, unfortunately, this confusion can be seen now in the world as people struggle to understand and cope with our political leaders and all the systems under them, where they are trying their best to control us using. 

The stress and pain you have just being around narcissists can be so intense and so persistent that finally, you begin wondering, ” do I need to get away from this person entirely, permanently, and as fast as I can?

Is it time to take your power back?  

Now I understand that people will say, well if you’re living with the

a toxic partner, leave them and go no contact, but this is not as easy as it seems for many people. 

To make this determination as to whether you need to move on or not, here are ten signs to consider that your relationship is at an ending point, even if you feel stuck or uncertain. These may help give you some clarification.

So take an inventory to see how many of these you have been dealing with, and if there are many, you might want to consider that it’s time to say enough is enough.

Here is the video version of “Top 7 Signs- It’s Time to Leave the Narcissist.”You will find the written version below the video.

Number One: 

The first sign that you need to be moving on is that the narcissist is killing your spirit. They squash your heart with their constant criticism and disinterest in anything you have to say or do that is not, of course, focused on them. This one is not as obvious as others, but the effects of what they are doing are devastating. 

Bottom Line: You feel like the shell of a person you used to be because you have been controlled so much by the narcissist. 

Number Two: 

Here’s another sign that says it may be

time to move on. When you have had ongoing isolation or alienation by the narcissist. 

Your narcissistic partner makes it so uncomfortable for you

when you engage with people you know and love that it becomes so painful.

With my ex-partner, he managed to isolate me from most of my family and friends and had me convinced that they all hated me or did not care about me, so we would never visit them or have any of them over.

Bottom Line: Gaslighting and lying by your partner have caused you not to doubt them but yourself. 

Number Three: 

This one is about how the narcissist frequently harasses you, ridicules you, saying nasty, harsh, and critical words. They dislike your interests, and they make fun of you, your family, and your friends. I refer to this as narcissist speak, which often comes out as sarcasm and implies disdain and superiority over you. If you see and feel this in your relationship, this is a huge red flag.

Bottom Line: You feel bad about yourself now when you did not before. This loss of self-worth is because of how the narcissist treats you. 

Number Four: 

This sign goes along with number three, but this takes it to another level. This is all about the contempt that the narcissist has towards you. You realize that they don’t just dislike some of the things you prefer or disagree with you. They have disgust toward you. Due to this sense of disdain and how they hold you in such low regard that you feel they hate me? The narcissist, through this contempt, believes they are so superior to you.

This could be the sign that has you thinking it is time for you to

be saying I have had enough. I’ve got to move on.

Bottom Line: Their contempt towards you has you feeling self-hatred, which the narcissist wants you to feel.

Number Five: 

This indicator is what we would refer to as communication breakdowns and is one of the primary characteristics of narcissism. Good communication is so crucial in any relationship, and of course, the narcissist has no interest in what you are saying or feeling. Their lack of empathy will not allow this. They do not care.

Number Six: 

This sign is about an imbalance of control and power within a relationship. Narcissists want to have control over you to overpower and have submission over you. This control that has persisted and has been ongoing in your relationship is a challenging situation. 

Bottom Line: The narcissist’s goal is to have complete control over you. If they could control your thoughts and in a way they do, they would. 

 Number Seven: 

This sign is what we would refer to as stonewalling behavior. There are times when the narcissist can say. “I don’t want to have anything to do with you.” Then they purposely make themselves unavailable, either physically or emotionally, or both. 

There’s a very tight wall of defense by the narcissist. So the withdrawal typically has a sense of punishment to it. 

Bottom Line: The narcissist takes great delight in making you feel inadequate as much as possible. This is how they get their narcissistic supply. Stealing your energy allows them to live. 

Bottom Line: You are their primary narcissistic supply and their lifeline to keep being who they are -parasites. 

Bonus Sign: 

This one’s a big one, and it’s a sense of abuse on many different kinds of fronts. Now obviously, if there’s physical abuse or sexual abuse, then that’s highly negative and obvious. 

 Verbal and emotional abuse is not as apparent initially, but it is also a massive sign to move on. 

Bottom Line: Abuse in any form is unacceptable and wrong. If you see it and feel it, you will eventually identify it, and then it is time to decide to leave. 

So there we have it have seven different signs to show you that you may need to think hard about moving away from the narcissist and if you have multiples of those seven, then that makes it more apparent to you. 

This is to have you open your eyes and begin to think about what I am saying to you about these signs. 

• How is the narcissist treating you? 

• What are their attitudes toward you? 

• Are they respectful towards you because this is how two people treat each other in a healthy relationship? 

You have some difficult decisions to make, but remember to do your self-care, which will help you have strength. This video is to help stimulate thinking on your part. 

As always, I wish you well on your healing journey. I am available to connect with you if you reach out to me. I do 1:1 healings using powerful energy healing, including Beyond Quantum Healing. 

If you are tired of feeling like hell and want to heal permanently, book an appointment with me. I can help you.

Love

Debbi