7 Ways To Starve A Narcissist
We are going to discuss seven ways to starve a narcissist and what this means. It has nothing to do with food.
Here is a video where I explain how you can starve a narcissist – narcissist supply. If you would like to read the post instead of watching please find it below the video.
These seven tips are going to end any hold you think that the narcissist has over you. But, most importantly, it will help you regain your power and move on from the narcissist.
Narcissists need what is called a narcissistic supply. They need to have resources outside themselves to survive, whether your attention, your energy, either positive or negative, your paycheck, and more.
Number one:
Go no contact. This is the best possible way to starve the narcissist who needs your energy. This means he needs your connection, whether that’s a text message or he gets under your skin when you see him in person.
The narcissist wants your energy, and any reaction that you give him is giving him that. Going no contact is the absolute best way to starve a narcissist.
Number two:
If you do have to have contact with a narcissist, is that you go gray rock. What this means is you show no emotion towards him. The narcissist has to have a response from you to get energy. Once he sees that you’re not going to do it over time, you will continue to be a gray rock. He will give it up.
Number three:
If you have to interact with a narcissist, try your best is to make it very brief and contact him for only an important reason. And show no emotion.
Number four:
Start walking away whenever the narcissist starts to be manipulative. This is going to happen if you must have contact with the narcissist. Because they choose to manipulate you, walk away from the conversation. They begin to blame you for something when they try to control the situation by engaging with you. They will do their best to get you to argue with them. Just walk away from the situation.
Number five:
Don’t talk shit about them to people that they know. Regardless of the level of closeness, they have to the narcissist, whoever they are. So please don’t do it.
Why? Because it’s going to get back to the narcissist. Then he has control over you. He’s going to know what bothers you. He will know what buttons he should push in the future. So don’t talk about the narcissist at all to anybody that knows the narcissist.
Number six:
Set boundaries and don’t back down from them. This is a huge win for you if the narcissist has such a hold on you because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in the first place.
So if you can set healthy boundaries, keep them and don’t feel bad
for setting them. Don’t try to reason your way out of it and say things like
he isn’t that bad, or he is going through a hard time, or oh, he is not doing anything on purpose. ( See my video/blog on Does the narcissist know what he is doing?) Boundaries show him how you deserve to be treated.
Number seven:
Focus on yourself. Take any focus off of the narcissist.
You have such a beautiful life waiting for you outside of the narcissist, so don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time or energy. Instead, focus on what you want in your life and start to put your energy and actions into this.
Soon you’re going to realize that the narcissist doesn’t have any hold on you.
You’re better for the experience. This may be hard to see initially, but you’ll be able to help other people because of the experience.
I am helping people recover from narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships because of what I went through with my ex-narcissistic partner.
I hope this helps you. Please leave your details to get the free ebook ” 6 Steps to Recover From Narcissistic Abuse.” I wrote this to help you heal from narcissistic abuse. Please find the links below the video and also links for my website. I am also on Instagram and Facebook.
Much love to you
Debbi