Narcissist Injury-17 Examples of Narcissist Speak

Have you ever spent time around a narcissist and found yourself repeatedly saying how sorry you are because you did or said something that made the narcissist feel bad, even if it was necessary to say it.

Here is what narcissistic injury means, narcissistic injury is a term to describe any threat or perceived threat to the narcissist’s ego or perception of themselves.

You have to remember that for a person with a narcissistic personality disorder or any toxic level of narcissistic tendencies. What you will see is a distorted sense of self-importance along with a sense of entitlement and a massive sense of superiority.

So if you risk the narcissist’s image of themselves, risk the narcissist’s ability to continue to see their false self, their sense of superiority, to continue to feel their sense of entitlement, or to continue to think they’re better than other people; that’s when you will cause narcissistic injury. 

Here are 17 things that narcissists say during narcissistic injury. I am going to translate them for you so that you can know what they really mean.

Here is the video to explain Narcissist Injury and 17 examples where I translate what they are really saying:

My name is Debbi Anderson, and I offer free videos and information to help you discover, understand and heal from narcissistic abuse in toxic relationships. 

So here is are some of the things that narcissists say during a narcissistic injury.

•  Number one: “I never said that. You never get it right. Why do you always misunderstand everything I say? “

Translation: I will change reality anytime I choose, and if you do not go along with it, you will be in big trouble. 

• Number two: ” I can’t remember what happened.”

Translation: I remember exactly what happened; however, I will pretend I don’t, so you will feel confused and not remember either. 

• Number Three: ” You are crazy. It’s all in your head. You really need to see someone.”

Translation: I need you to doubt yourself and your reality to effectively manipulate you and make you do what I want.

• Number Four: ” I did not hurt you, of course. You hurt yourself, and no doubt you deserved it. “

Translation: I have zero empathy for you. You forced me to abuse you somehow, and I think you deserved it because you didn’t do what I wanted you to do.

• Number Five: “I have no idea what you are saying. It makes absolutely no sense, and I don’t know what you’re talking about.”

Translation: I understand what you are saying, but I am pretending that I don’t so you so that I don’t have to respond logically.

• Number Six: “I don’t like talking about my past.” 

Translation: I have carefully manufactured my perfect image, and if I talk about my past, this image might be proven false. How am I supposed to keep up my false self if people find out who I am?

• Number Seven: “That’s not what I meant. I’m sorry that’s how you feel.”

Translation: I’m pretending that I care and saying I’m sorry. I’m using words to manipulate you and invalidate you—very subtly, of course. 

• Number Eight: “Stop attacking me. You are always attacking me.” 

Translation: Stop holding me accountable for my actions.

• Number Nine:  ” Why do you keep talking about whatever you’re interested in? This is so boring. Don’t you have anything interesting that I don’t already know?” 

Translation: I don’t care about whatever it is that you’re talking about, and even if I do care about it, I’m going to pretend that you’re boring and stupid so that you feel invalidated. Oh, and the conversation needs to be directed by me and all about me anyhow.

• Number Ten: “There is something wrong with the way that you think. You are delusional.”

Translation: I’m not too fond of when you call me out on my BS. You’re a little bit too aware of this stuff. So I need you to go ahead and start doubting yourself and your judgment right now. 

• Number Eleven: ” How dare you accuse me of lying?. I’ve always told you the truth.” 

Translation: I’ve always told you what I wanted or needed you to believe at the moment, regardless of whether or not it’s the truth.

Oh, and don’t question me on it. 

• Number Twelve: “You never loved me.”

Translation: I never loved you, or maybe I’m just bored. I can’t remember that I once had feelings for you, but either way. I will blame it all on you. 

• Number Thirteen: “If you’ve loved me, you would understand.”

Translation: I’m going to go ahead and try to make you feel guilty for expecting me to take responsibility, to tell the truth about what happened, or be honest. I figure if I can use your love for me against you. You might feel too bad to force me to explain myself or take responsibility for anything I’ve done wrong. 

•  Number Fourteen: “You are never happy.”

Translation: Why can’t you accept all of my abuse and be happy about it?

• Number Fifteen: “You are twisting my words and putting words in my mouth because I never said that. 

Translation: I twist your words all the time, so I’m familiar with that tactic. I did say that, but I don’t want to admit it, so I will deny it. 

• Number Sixteen: “You were never there for me.”

Translation: I’m never there for you, but you better be there for me, at my beck and call, without question.

• Number Seventeen: “Every partner I’ve been with has been crazy, but you are the worst.”

Translation: I’ve driven every partner I’ve ever had to the brink of insanity, right to the edge. I’m attempting to distract you from the actual issue here and reinforce all the gaslighting I’ve done up to this point. Do you doubt your sanity yet?.

• Bonus: “I hate drama. You are always creating drama around everything.”

 Translation: Drama is my very favorite thing. It’s a massive form of narcissistic supply. I create drama around everything, and you play right into it. 

Conclusion:

Well, I hope this gives you an idea about how to translate “narcissist,” which can be fun. Also, it offers you some insight into the way that narcissists think. 

So the next time you find yourself dealing with a narcissist, who is the injured narcissist, someone who’s going through narcissistic injury, remember these translations and give you a better understanding. 

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Love to you

Debbi