“Love is the only truth. All else is an illusion.”

Opening our hearts can be a scary thing. After all, we have years of brainwashing in place- pain, suffering, fear, judgments, and comparisons. By now, we have had many things happen in our life-illnesses, accidents, dramas, traumas, heartbreaks, heartaches, and everything in between. Life has happened and we can get discouraged, especially if we have not yet taken back the reigns of our freedom and power. It can be much more painful for us to keep our hearts locked up inside us though.

How do we go about opening our hearts?

Here are some simple practices you can do at home to open your heart more and more each day and begin to feel love again. The highest vibration is the Love Vibration. 

The whole universe is waiting to love you. Your Higher Self is waiting to love you. 

How To Open Your Heart

Connect With Nature

When we spend time with Nature, we tap in and connect to the field of all things This is the interconnected web of life that makes up the fabric of our reality of existence. It is in nature that we can tune back into our inate gifts and connect with ourselves on a whole different level.

Start by sitting in a quiet place, in nature, coming to the present moment. Once you are sitting in nature, begin gazing with your left eye, dominantly yet slightly out of focus. Begin to look at the outline of the plants, trees, clouds, and things around you. Everything has an aura. An aura is a halo-shaped, crown of love energy around it. When you softly yet dominantly gaze out of your left eye, you begin to see this haze, this field of existence that makes up this space-time reality.

In these moments, we can see we are not in nature, but rather we are nature.

Spending time in nature puts us in vibration with Mother Earth’s heartbeat. Through grounding, the electromagnetic resonance of our hearts will tune in to the electromagnetic vibration of Mother Earth’s heartbeat. As our heart consciousness beats with and aligns with hers, we feel a sense of feeling at home wash over us, reminding ourselves that we are worthy. We are infinite, spiritual beings having a human experience and we are supported by the Divine.

Meditation

A very good way to open our heart space is through stillness and meditation. When we are the observer we stay in observer consciousness and witness what is coming up for ourselves at any given moment. We give our hearts permission to stay open and invite love to flow through us.

The next time that something is coming up for you, stay as detached as possible. Practice detachment, and stay in that observer consciousness, meaning simply witnessing what is coming up for you. This means, it is sunny and hot outside, you would say to yourself, “Oh, it is so sunny and hot out, I can feel the sun on my face. I am noticing that is hot and sunny outside.”

That same thinking holds when feelings are arising. Just like you would notice the sunshine, you hold yourself with love and compassion as you observe what is coming up and through you. This also applies to negative feelings, when they come up, just allow them to be, and observe them.

Your heart feels safe and stays open by staying in this heart-centered space.

Breathing

Breathing is one of the most powerful tools in co-creation. Our breath is our life-force energy and so we can use the breath any time we wish to come back to the present moment. When we say that the eternal now is the only moment we ever have, we mean that because ALL that exists, ever has existed, and will exist is only ever happening right here, right now.

There are countless methods of breathing techniques, and finding one that works for you is important. So whether it is taking deep, nourishing inhalations on the in-breath, and long, audible exhalations on the out-breath. Or, whether it is another technique called box breathing, where you hold your breath in for a count of four, pause for four, exhale for four, and hold for four. Finding a breathing technique that works for you can help slow you down at any given moment.

Using the breath is a powerful way to stay centered and in your heart space. At the end of each day, try this- take a deep breath and say to yourself ” I let go of everything that does not serve me.” Then let exhale out. Do this several times and every night before you sleep. It is a remarkable breathing technique that clears you of negative energies you may have picked up during your day. Some you are aware of and some you are not. It will let go of them.

Living Authentically

When we live authentically, we permit others to do the same. Some people are not in a place to honor our chosen path, and so judgments, comparisons can arise.

More importantly, is that you are a secondary character in the movie of their life, and when you begin to change, you no longer are fitting into the role you were previously playing for them.

This makes them uncomfortable and so usually unconsciously, they try to correct you back into the character that you were once playing for them. This can hinder your growth and is unhealthy in many ways.

All the more reason why having healthy boundaries is critical.

Light a Candle

Another way to open your heart is to light a candle. Find a quiet place and light a candle. Begin breathing taking a few deep breaths in and out. Softly begin gazing at the flame. Again, with your left eye dominant, and slightly out of focus, gaze at the flame that is the blazing fire of Divine’s love for you.

After a few minutes of staring at this flame of Universal love energy, visualize this flame coming into your heart center. Invite this flame to come inside of your chest, pulling in the flames of the Divine’s love. You will begin to feel the flickerings of love as this light of unconditional acceptance of self is installed in your heart.

Any time after this, you can bring your attention and intention to this blazing fire of unconditional love, bringing the flames of your existence and eternal being into your mind.

Healthy Boundaries

Setting healthy boundaries is necessary for going forth in our exploration of self and the Universe. It is true, we are all one, but many people confuse this by thinking that we don’t have to, or don’t need to have healthy boundaries. This could not be farther from the truth.

Compassion and healthy boundaries are other areas that seem difficult for people to put together. We can have compassion, for ourselves and others, and have healthy boundaries. Setting healthy boundaries is compassion.

So healthy boundaries are a must, during the self-healing process, and at all other times. 

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Connecting with Friends

Connecting with a tribe is a beautiful way to keep your heart activated and open. When we connect with like-minded people, we feel safe. When we feel safe, our hearts can stay open and balanced.

Our vibrations come together like tuning forks resonating at the same frequency. When we are vibrating at the same frequency, we can make a quantum leap in healing, aligning to one another’s true self.

True friends are those who stand by you with non-attachment, non-judgment, love, and compassion. They allow you to be your true self, and they hold space for you.

The next time you are feeling down or your heart is closed, pick up the phone and call someone you know who truly cares about you. Set your intention to connect to their heart, begin breathing, and coming to the present moment.

Come into the Present Moment

When we are in the present moment, using our breath to realign us and bringing us back whenever we feel uncertain, we allow ourselves to tune in to this loving connection to the Divine. This is a powerful way to open our hearts.

Color therapy

Color therapy is a beautiful practice. This is what you do:

Sit comfortably in a quiet place and bring your attention to your heart. Begin to breathe as you focus on your heart. After taking a few deep breaths, visualize the first color that comes to you. Trust your intuition: whatever color is coming up for you is the color that your Higher Self is wanting for, for balance and harmonization.

Your aura is also called the Luminous Energy Field—the torus, egg-shaped like a field of vibrations surrounding your physical body. Within our body and in our aura there lies our imprints, traumas, wounds, and attractions. When imprints are created in the Luminous Energy Field, there are waves created in our state of beingness, and these waves become aptitudes, and these aptitudes become patterns.

Our beliefs make up the field of our existence of this time-space reality. Our beliefs are powerful, and can get us off balance in a matter of moments. So, the next time you are having trouble opening your heart, or perhaps feel flutters in your chest that you know are not physical and yet can’t seem to ignore, look at what beliefs are coming up for you.

What are the lies your mind is telling you, mainly about yourself, that is stemming from a belief, a belief that is branching from an illogical distortion? These beliefs usually were not even ours and came from our parents, other relatives, teachers, or even our ancestors.

What belief baggage are you carrying?

We all have it, we can bring it into our awareness but this is sometimes not possible. Bringing our beliefs to the surface from our subconscious minds, especially conflicting beliefs that we hold, is another one of the quickest ways to begin self-healing. Sometimes it is too difficult or too painful to bring our beliefs up to the surface and this is where I can help you if you choose. I have healed my deep traumas and wounds. When you are ready, let me help you.  

Standing in Your Truth

Speaking our truth is a powerful way to invite others to do the same. This doesn’t mean we are creating conflict or being mean-spirited, unloving, compassionate, or disconnected.

All it means here is that we are being true to ourselves, we are standing on our own two feet, doing our best, and we are choosing ourselves, before others. This is not in a place of ego, but in a place derived from self-love. It is not selfishness, it is self-love.

Standing in our truth and allowing others to see what we are and who we are gives them the go-ahead to also stand in theirs. When we are real with people and speak with words of love, our truth resonates with them on a level that simply cannot be argued with. It is our truth.

Everyone has a personal dream, meaning a unique way that they see the world. We are all co-creators of our realities and co-creating what is before us in every moment. Respecting other people’s dreams, the way they see the world, the beliefs they hold is one of the most compassionate ways we can go about our days. Also removing ourselves from arguments, dramas, conflicts, and battles while respecting the dreams and visions of others, for no one sees this reality in the same way.

Journaling

The practice of journaling is an amazing tool for processing. There is nothing more exciting than opening up the fresh pages of a new journal, waiting for you to fill the pages with your experiences and stories.

The next time things are coming up for you, consider pouring everything out on the pages of a journal. Sometimes, we just have to get it out. It doesn’t matter what you write or how you write it, simply getting the words out onto the pages can help you release whatever you are holding inside of you.

After you journal, know that you have released what no longer serves you, and allow yourself to go about your day calling back in all things that are your birthright-freedom, bliss, abundance, inner peace, love, and all things for our highest good.

Sending Love, Expressing Love

Sending love, expressing love, is one of the quickest ways to fill yourself up with love. When we send love, we are connecting to Divine Source. When we are connected to Source, we allow others to do the same.

The next time you are feeling those flutters in your chest, or perhaps those overwhelming feelings of despair, or any kind of lower vibrations, visualize someone in front of you want to send love to, or better yet, someone you don’t want to send love to.

Set your intention to connect to their heart. 

Imagine for a moment love pouring out of your heart into theirs. Begin to feel gratitude in every fiber of your being for this thing we call life and then send those feelings of gratitude out through your heart to the other person and the rest of the world.

Gratitude is one of the highest vibrations, other than unconditional love, and so when we emit these powerful resonances, we can vibrate higher every day and connect back into that space-time reality where magic is real and miracles are commonplace.

Listen to Your Heart

Listening to your heart is a powerful tool in self-healing.

What is your heart saying? What messages does it have for you? Are you thinking with your head, or with your heart?

Start with coming into the present moment, residing in that still place within you, turning your focus inward, instead of outward, and then quieting the mind long enough to hear what messages are coming through for you. 

Set your intention that you only hear messages of love and nothing else, that you feel with the mind, and think with the heart. Begin breathing deeply. Focus on the chest rising and expanding, and then falling closer and closer to the body.

There is safety and peace in this quiet place of surrender. There is expansiveness here. Breathe.

Following our Heart

 When we follow our heart, amazing things become possible: We step into the flow.

Following our heart, as much as we can, in every moment, without attachment to or insistence on the outcome, is the answer. One of the easiest ways to open your heart is through passion.

When we do things we are passionate about, we step into the flow of all that is. Passion, bliss, love, joy are the way to get there.

Love is Everything.

Love is the answer for all things. The way we love says the most about us. The way we love ourselves and the way we love others.

You can ask yourself, “how are you loving today?” “Have you loved you today?” If not, then why not? What is stopping you? If you are not loving yourself, or are not feeling the love for others, try practicing some of the tools we talked about here in this post.

If you are loving yourself, and are loving others, keep doing what you are doing.

Love is the only thing, love is everything. When we vibrate on the love vibration, we are resonating at our true, unique energy signatures.

Unconditional Love

Unconditional love comes from a place of honor and respect.

Loving people or ourselves unconditionally doesn’t mean the other person can do no wrong. It is rooted in that timeless space of respect and honor, where we show up for the person and hold space for them no matter what they are going through. Most importantly, we show up for ourselves.

When we place conditions on our love for people, this is the farthest thing from love. For example, “If you do this, then I will love you. If you act this way, then I will give you my love, or, “If you don’t do this, I will not give you my love.”

Placing conditions on our love for people is not love. That is control.

The next time you find yourself in a situation that doesn’t seem to be going well, ask yourself, are you loving unconditionally? Or are you giving your love conditionally?

The next time you are in that situation, ask yourself: Am I being loved unconditionally? Meaning, am I being shown love with honor and respect? Or, am I being loved conditionally? This is definitely what happened to me in an abusive relationship as I was in with my narcissistic partner. I was definitely not loved unconditionally. He was incapable of loving anyone including himself, especially unconditionally.

If you answered yes to this, it’s time to go back to your toolkit and set some healthy boundaries. You teach people how to treat you by how you treat yourself. It may seem impossible you believe when you are in an abusive relationship but becoming aware is one of the beginning steps to your freedom.

Start turning the focus inward. What lesson is presenting itself here? What mirror is this person holding up for us? Because at the end of the day, it has nothing to do with the other person, it has everything to do with ourselves.

Almost exclusively, if someone is not treating you with love and respect, there is a part of this because you are not loving and honoring yourself. If they are narcissists then it is more complicated since they are masters of manipulation, control, lying, gaslighting, and cannot love anyone. 

We need to love and respect ourselves so others can love and respect us.

The Heart-Opening Truth

So how do we love ourselves? We do this by loving others. And how do we love others? We do this by loving ourselves.

How are we compassionate for ourselves? By being compassionate for others. How are we compassionate for others? By being compassionate for ourselves.

Give some or all of these practices a try, and let me know how they work for you. I love hearing your feedback about your journeys and the way things are going for you. 

As always, please reach out and share your stories via email or DM me on Instagram or Facebook. 

Sending each of you love

Debbi