June is PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) awareness month
I am focusing this article on Trauma, what it is, how it affects us as well as how I actually healed from the trauma and effects of being in a narcissistically abusive relationship with a malignant narcissist.
This may be especially important during these times when so many of us have been watching troubling events play out around the world.
No doubt you have heard of head traumas but outside of physical trauma, there are also emotional traumas that are the result of difficult or stressful experiences and events. When they happen to you, your healing may not only be critical to your ability to move on but to live a happy joyful life.
Traumatic experiences can affect people differently. Here are some examples of some traumatic events:
- Difficult breakup or divorce
- Death of a family member, friend, or pet
- Serious Accident or physical injury
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Serious illness
- Natural disasters
- Abusive Toxic Relationships
- Moving to a new city
- Being the victim of a crime
Any kind of traumatic experience may cause physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual harm. After having such an event, you may feel anxious, overwhelmed, or sad as a result. You may find yourself feeling empty or numb. Hopefully, those feelings fade over time as you deal with them and get the support you need. But sometimes, you may not know how to respond to the experience, and those feelings may become stuck inside and not let go.
Trauma is not emotional it is logical. The brain always follows the body.
You will not be able to think your way out of your suffering or the devastation and intense difficulties with a narcissist, therefore you will be unable to heal from narcissistic abuse by using your mind.
But there is good news. You can release the trauma inside of you in the shortest, most direct, and powerful way to reach an aligned, calm place that will lead you out of abuse and into your new life.
Trauma Doesn’t Remain In Our Brain
Our brain is severely affected by trauma however, that is not where you find the trauma.
Trauma is not logical, trauma is emotional.
It is important for us to know that when we talk, or think, this is the cognitive part of our brain and it is not in contact with our limbic and emotional part of our brain where our trauma is stored.
It’s our internal beliefs that are driving us, that are shaping us as the people we are because it is what is responsible for what we believe about ourselves, others, and life.
We believe that how we feel is because of our thinking, but the real truth is our thinking always follows our feeling.
The way we are thinking is because of the feelings that are happening as our inner experience.
The Brain Always Follows The Body
To understand the body-brain connection, we need to realize how our feelings control our consciousness, and therefore our thinking.
When we are experiencing the deep visceral emotional hijacking of trauma, what we discover is that our thinking is far from calm, capable, and measured to finding solutions to the feelings that we’re experiencing.
What we discover is that our thinking is stuck in the experience that matches our inner feelings. We then we try so hard to change the feelings in our bodies by trying to force our brains into healthier ways of thinking.
We try our best to consistently access healthier ways of thinking but we can’t and end up going back to our default feelings of powerlessness, helplessness, and hopelessness. We think it is just our unfortunate fate and we try our best to get out of what seems to be a completely never-ending traumatizing situation.
This is normal and why it is so common to wonder ‘what’s wrong with me? Why can’t I get it through my head that this person is the problem, is destroying me, and that I need to get away and stay away?” And we when we actually do get away and manage to stay away, why is it that we keep going back to all of the thoughts of the trauma, of what happened, and what we could have done differently to not have lived through what we did. Blaming ourselves most of the time. We have not figured out that the narcissist is deceptive and very calculating.
It’s common to have thoughts of powerlessness, heartbreak, regret, remorse, anger, sadness, and all kinds of feelings that might not make sense to us; it’s also an uphill battle trying to recover and rebuild your life. This is because your brain is following your body.
When there is trauma stuck in your body, and in your limbic emotional systems, this is hijacking the integrity of your Being. It affects your consciousness and the ability for you to open up and access healing.
It is simply not available at the level of consciousness that your internal trauma is generating for your brain. When dealing with trauma it is the part of the brain called the amygdala where the focus is purely survival. This is not a place where a connection to The Higher Consciousness (which is all of life) in supportive, solution-focused, supportive, powerful, and even miraculous ways, is found.
When we are not healing on a deep level as a result of not understanding the body-brain connection, it means that we are trapped in our primitive survival brain suffering intense traumatic thoughts and feelings that set up a chemical peptide addiction.
Until we understand why we need to make the shift to put the body in front of the brain and how to do this, it truly is a prison with no escape.
Shifting Into Our Body
The complete irony is that the one place we need to go to the most is the place that we’ve all been programmed to stay out of- our body.
What I have found is the only true way home to come back into our own bodies with love and devotion is the inner healing work so you can find, release and reprogram our trauma and then we can be free.
When we do this, we discover that those feelings of being defeated, terrified and powerless no longer exist. When we go into our bodies, instead there is a feeling of calm, hope, strength, and power. We discover that we can experience these feelings without even having to have any physical evidence in the world outside us to provide us with these feelings.
This is a pivotal point in our healing journey when we have started to take our power back.
We realize that we literally are Creators who through our physical emotional experience what we wish to live.
It’s then that we understand how much power we have in the creation of our life process. We wake up and realize that when we were battling a traumatized physical experience, trying to get things and people outside of ourselves to change or comfort us in order to try to produce better feelings, that it doesn’t work.
When we go inside ourselves with love and dedication and use an effective quantum tool to reach, release and reprogram our trauma, we discover the love that we’ve been looking for all along to continually free ourselves from trauma and remember the incredible Quantum Creators that we really are.
This is only possible when we self-partner ourselves from within.
The Relief Of Going Within
What you will discover when you go within is your brain will automatically follow your body. You will become calm, centered, knowledgeable, powerful, and able to access resolutions, opportunities, and expansion.
That is what going within a quantum level when you are prepared to meet the trauma in your body, using unconditional love and then release it. It’s not just the ultimate act of love it’s the true way to create your personal growth and freedom.
Which is the true reason we are here to wake up to.
So hopefully now you can understand how problematic and even impossible it is to try to think our way out of trauma.
Heal With Powerful Energy Healing
Energy Healing may help you deal with the effects of traumatic experiences. The healing modality I use called Liberation Healing could help you release negative emotional energy including Energy Blocks on many levels within your being or Heart Curses— related to trauma. Other practices like mindfulness, meditation, and physical activity could help improve your view of the world and combat the negativity that could complicate your recovery process.
None of us are immune to experiencing trauma. Being already emotionally healthy may help you with the emotional healing you need after a difficult experience like a toxic relationship with a narcissist abuser. Energy healing and other practices that boost your sense of wellbeing can leave you better equipped to recover when challenging times come into your life.
As always I wish you only the best on your healing journey. If you would like to leave a comment or you can reach me here :
Please take care and love to you