Narcissistic Abuse In Authority Positions
I am here to talk to you about your healing from Narcissistic Abuse and specifically about how we find narcissists in many authority positions. Here is the video version of the post about Narcissists In Authority Positions:
Narcissists like to be in the spotlight. Many of them work their way up the levels into positions of authority.
The classic narcissist is an overt personality type meaning they appear to be powerful and confident. They may be very focused and ambitious to reach a position with power and control over others.
They get their narcissistic supply from:
- influence,
- adoration,
- acclaim,
- and fame.
This gets narcissists the ability to access power, prestige, money, and privileges. Unfortunately, narcissistic are rewarded in society.
Let’s Talk about Our Programming To Trust Authorities
We have been programmed to trust people in authority. We have also been told that specific systems are:
- reliable,
- honest,
- trustworthy,
- and credible.
We are even told not to distrust them. and if you step out of what others believe, you will be shamed.
We can see this in our world right now.
When anyone goes against what the narcissists in power are putting out there, we are shamed not only by them and then again by those they have programmed.
This is seen in our relationship with the narcissists personally and also in the world. When we question our narcissistic partner, we are told we have it wrong or we imagined it.
We are programmed to believe that when people look us in the eye, they are telling us the truth, so we believe what they are saying. However, we knew when we looked at the actions and irregularities of our narcissistic partner, they were questionable, Yet we defaulted back to our programming of “believing what other people say to you.”
Why is this?
Why Are We Not Our Authority?
After experiencing narcissistic abuse in my life, I realized that not being my authority and blindly believing in another’s cost me so much.
There was a time. I could not comprehend that evil exists, that there are people who are out for themselves at other people’s expense, and there are victims of these people every day. Now, as a result of being in a narcissistic relationship, I have changed.
This means not handing my power away to others and allowing them to have authority over me and my life.
By not taking control and responsibility for our lives, they lose their authority over them on multiple levels. When we have chosen to believe the boyfriend who says, “I love you as no one else can.” while their actions feel like emotional assaults and not like love at all.
We trusted the doctor saying, “this surgery is the only answer to your problem,” rather than turning inwards to trust and connect with our Higher Self and look for other answers.
We also have handed over our decision-making power and rights to larger authorities rather than being the ones in control of ourselves. We are programmed to accept, trust, and believe others, even if what is happening feels very wrong inside of us, even when the evidence outside ourselves screams how wrong it was.
Now here is a big question for you?
“Why are we believing certain outer authorities when things are not getting better and even maybe getting worse?
- Why do the goalposts keep moving?
- Why does the information keep changing?
- Why don’t the promises hold up?
- Why do we seem to be chasing our tail with no relief?
Isn’t it time to correct the direction, if the abuse from your partner is getting worse, the illness more severe, the public information even more absurd and false?
How do we stop automatically correcting what is going on?
We stop this by not giving other people authority regarding love, freedom, decisions, health, directions, and Life Force and become that for ourselves. It’s not hard to be misled when we are busy, distracted, and not looking at the real-life evidence or trusting our gut and following it.
The truth is – it’s much harder to admit that you have been deceived than to be deceived.
When I discovered the man I was with was cruel and abusive, and certainly did not love me, I didn’t want to believe it. I told myself stories. I looked the other way. I even argued and discredited anyone who showed me the evidence.
So why would I do this?
I did this because it was too shocking for me to accept the truth. It meant the life I was living was a lie. It meant rather than moving forward into love, I was headed into abuse and trauma.
Before I knew what I know now I saw how we can wrap our identity around other people and their authority.
We want to believe their lies. We want them to protect us and take care of us. It makes us feel safer and more secure than if they don’t. Yet, we aren’t safe unless we fully face the truth and take responsibility for ourselves. We have to take control of the decisions, and directions for our own life.
This can be terrifying but It means we need to be in control of our lives.
We need to admit we were wrong.
Even say to other people, “Yes you tried to warn me, but I was not able to hear it. I’m sorry, you were right.”
This is a huge step for us.
So It Is Important To Be Flexible and Be Able to Learn New Ideas
Having an open mind is life-saving – it stops you from heading towards your demise. Having a closed mind costs me dearly. I continued in the relationship with my narcissistic partner. I went through terrible trauma and lost out on so many levels. Sure enough, in the end, I had no choice other than to accept the hard truth of his continued lies and his abusive behavior.
I could have avoided so much pain, all the lost time, and destruction had I accepted what was happening the first time I saw it. I have learned and changed. Now I know I would much rather suffer the shock of the truth than continue accepting the abuse. Narcissists prey on our clinging to “the version we want”. It makes it easy for them to lie to us, tell us what we want to hear, make false promises, and keep abusing us. Oh and smear other people who try to warn us about them. My ex narcissistic partner did this with most of the
How To Become Your Own Authority
And how can you grow after being betrayed? We are told to believe in authority for many areas of our lives, such as freedom, love, health, finances, and personal choices.
Here is something that we all need to learn:
Stop blindly trusting what you are told.
Instead, look at what you are seeing. If things feel “off,” chances are high they are. If new information is presented to you, be open to it. Look at it. Check out credentials, information, histories, and other opinions. Look into it. If things don’t make sense to you, then you need to pay attention.
Stop passing things off with,
- “Oh well, not much I can do.”
- or “Maybe I’m just making this all up.”
- or “Why would they do something awful?”
- or “It will all be okay.”
But If you look for the truth, you will find it, especially in the world where there are narcissists everywhere.
But, if it’s covered over, hidden, lied about, censored – then you have your answer.
The truth will set you free, but if you ignore possible deception you could take find yourself going further into the pits of hell. Finding truth needs to be important to us after suffering narcissistic abuse. Ask yourself if what is going on feels right to you? Or Are you moving further forward into your comfort and empowerment?
Don’t go along and agree because you are told you should.
No one can know the truth for you. Your Higher Self knows. Source knows and you know.
I hope that this has been helpful for you. If you have any comments or questions, please send me a DM via Instagram or Facebook. You can find free articles and posts to here to help you. I
I have also have written a free Ebook for you, “6 Steps to Recover From Narcissistic Abuse. “
I help people recover from Narcissistic Abuse they have suffered from some powerful healing. I left my narcissistic partner, and that helped, but it did not heal me, permanently.
What healed me was the inner work on myself and now I help others. I can show you how you can heal yourself if you would like to know this.
Love to you
Debbi